Showing posts with label black pants. Show all posts
Showing posts with label black pants. Show all posts

Tuesday, February 4, 2014

Black Pants for Work: I Adore Me

Black Pants Week continues with my go-to for work, evening, and weekends - black skinny pants.  Skinny pants are perfect with flats, heels, or boots.  The gold studs on the ankle of these pants add a style detail that sets this pair apart.
Pants:  The Limited (Sold out on-line)
Blouse:  The Limited (Available here)
One of the beauties of black pants is that they provide a blank canvas - you can add pair just about anything with them.  My favorite way to style them is to lighten them up with soft blouses and colored blazers as I did here.

When I first spotted this blazer, I was pulled in by the pale blue color (a color I didn't already have in my wardrobe) and by the ruching on the sleeves which makes it perfect for pushing jacket sleeves up.

Blazer:  The Limited (Available here)
Then I saw the lining which said "Adore Me," and I thought, "Well, that's pretty needy, isn't it?"  And why is a jacket from my favorite store promoting the idea that women should look to others for approval? 
Then, I found a deeper meaning. 

The lining is on the inside of the jacket.  I came to the conclusion that while it may not have been the intent of The Limited, the words "adore me" on the inside of the jacket is a message to self, a reminder to the wearer to adore the many wonderful things about themselves.  
Necklace:  The Limited (Available here)
Is my body good enough?  Am I smart enough?  Am I a good enough parent?  Is my outfit stylish enough?  Do I look young enough?  Am I competent enough at my job? 

Sometimes, it is easy to feel like we are simply not enough.



We are so often told by our culture that our best may not be or is not enough.  As women, we are so often taught that we must be superwomen who can take on the board room, the kitchen, and the bedroom without breaking a sweat.  We are told that we must be skinny AND curvy AND have gravity-defying breasts.  We are told that we must be experienced sexually and always sexually available while remaining virginal and "innocent" - child-like even.  We are told to break the glass ceiling in the workplace but to feel guilty about leaving our children with babysitters and day cares. 

So often, culture and society fail women.  They fail us by teaching us that we are not worthy, that our best is not enough.  Feeling fully confident in ourselves can be a constant struggle because the media, politicians, and especially corporations are constantly telling us otherwise.

Unfortunately, insecurity sells.

It's up to us to reject the messages with which we are bombarded.  That is a difficult process, but daily affirmations are one way of converting those negative messages into positive ones.

Bracelets:  Target, Claire's
I've documented some of my body image struggles here on the blog, but I haven't spent as much time talking about how I've mostly overcome them.

Learning to love myself was and is an on-going process.  One thing that has helped is learning to change the voice in my head.

Look in the mirror - instead of criticizing yourself (as I was always prone to do), find something about yourself that you love.  


Force yourself (if necessary) to say the words out loud:

"My ______ is beautiful.  I am beautiful."
"I provide/teach my children _________.  I am a good parent."
"I _________ this at work last week.  I am great at my job."

It may seem silly at first, but when you tell yourself the words out loud, it starts to change the energy around you.  When you keep doing this, your words become less forced - it becomes second-nature to think positively and confidently about yourself.


We're all going to have our not so confident days.  That's human nature and a product of cultural sensitization to the messages that constantly tell us we aren't __________ enough.  Reminding ourselves that we are good enough helps us combat those negative feelings.

And with that, I return to my jacket with its reminder to give myself the affirmations I deserve (that we all deserve).  


I ADORE ME! 

In a month centered around love - take the time to love yourself!
Boots:  Fergalicious by Fergie (Available here)
Satchel:  The Limited (old)
Do you give yourself any affirmations or have other strategies of boosting your confidence when you're having a "not ________ enough" day?

For this blouse in another look, see here.
For these pants in other looks, see here, here, and here.

P.S.  Click here to check out my newest post for The Curvy Fashionista featuring petite plus-size styling options for your Valentine's Day look (Most of the styles are available in petite, plus size, and misses/straight sizing as well).

Thursday, January 24, 2013

Spring 2013 Fashion Preview: Color-palooza!

The mercury may be in the teens, but I am having a major case of spring fever, so today, I mixed last spring's bubblegum pink blazer with a mint top.

Jacket:  The Limited (Similar here and here)
Top:  New York & Company (Available here)
Pants:  The Limited (Similar here)
Heels:  Target (old)
Color is always popular on Spring runways, and this spring is no exception.

Emerald is the color of the year, but spring's major color trends include all of the following:

Spring 2013 Color Trends,
Source:  www.pantone.com
I'm particularly loving the primary shades of poppy, lemon, and blue.

One of the big color trends for spring was a monochromatic color statement:

Gucci Spring 2013 look
Source:  www.harpersbazaar.com
I don't see myself in quite so much of one color, but I would definitely rock a dress with a matching jacket such as the look below.

I'm in LOVE with this seafoam green look from Donna Karan!  I love the soft muted color and the floaty feel.
Donna Karan Spring 2013 look
Source:  www.fashionista.com

More of my favorite colorful looks from the Spring runways:
Diane Von Furstenburg Spring 2013 look
Source:  www.dvf.com

Diane Von Furstenburg Spring 2013 look
Source:  www.dvf.com
Do you like to wear a lot of color in the Spring?  Would you wear a colorful monochromatic look?

Thursday, December 6, 2012

Workaday Elegance

Happy Thursday!!
Blouse:  LOFT Petites (Available here)
Blazer:  Gap (old) (Similar: here)
Today, I paired my outfit around this lace peplum top.  I added wide leg trousers and a black velvet peplum jacket for an elegant vintage-inspired look.

I kept the accessories minimal to let the shapes and textures of this outfit be the show.

Pants:  Express Editor wide leg trousers (old) (Similar here)






Jacket:  Back view


Shoes:  Target (old)
Tote:  The Limited (Similar here)
For more on the peplum and lace trends, see here

Friday, November 23, 2012

Casual Festive

Hope everyone had a relaxing and enjoyable Thanksgiving!

I wanted a comfortable outfit that was somewhat casual, but festive.

This is what I came up with:



Blouse:  The Limited (Available here)
Jeans:  Target (Available here)
I realize I wear a lot of black - I can't fight it; I just really like it!
Heels:  Target
This outfit is a little different for me as I almost always wear layers, even in the summer time.  It was a warm Thanksgiving this year, so I decided to skip the extra layer of a cardigan or blazer.
I accessoried with a bold cocktail ring with purple stones, but let the embellishments on the top speak for themselves.
Ring:  The Limited (old)
Do you have a basic formula for dressing with which you tend to stick?  For me it's pants or jeans, a blouse, blazer or cardigan - usually in shades of black and white.
 
Hope you're having a great Friday!!

Thursday, August 23, 2012

Golden Girl

I realized today that I have inadvertently worn black pants everyday this week.  I do admit that I am a black pants addict.  I collect black pants like some people collect coins or baseball cards.  Even so, I usually try to mix up my style a little more.
Pants:  The Limited (Similar: The Limited )
Patent Heels:  Target
It has definitely been a transition getting back to work after my vacay, so it's not surprising that I have been resorting to trusty favorites.  Do you have any clothing crutches?
Top (Available at The Limited)
Today, I've mixed my black pants with a gold lace peplum-style top that I recently featured on my blog (See here).  Besides lace and peplums, this top also features another major trend for fall - gold.


Bow earrings:  The Limited (Similar:  The Limited)
Bangles:  Target, Claire's The Limited
Lace can look a little too matronly, in my opinion.  The slimmer cut of the pants work best here to keep the top from looking too mature. 
Cardigan:  LOFT Petites
I added the boyfriend cardigan for warmth in the office.  Do you layer for summer air conditioning?


Monday, July 30, 2012

Animal Attraction

I'm a sucker for classy animal prints.  Unlike other prints, I never get tired of them.  The neutral shades go with just about anything, and they add a fun pop that make your basics anything but boring.


Pants:  The Limited (Similar:  http://www.thelimited.com/Exact-Stretch-Bootcut-Pants/6438716,default,pd.html?dwvar_6438716_colorCode=150&start=3&ppid=c3&cgid=pants&prefn1=colorFamily&prefv1=Black)













Blazer:  The Limited

Top:  New York and Company (Similar:  http://www.nyandcompany.com/nyco/prod/Tops/View-All/Side-Knot-Pleated-Top-Leopard-Print)



Bag:  The Limited

Bracelets:  Target, Claire's, World Market, The Limited

Blazer:  Back View


This is what I wore to work today.  My go-to work uniform consists of pants + blazer + heels + cute top + fun accessories.  It's a basic formula but one with infinite style possibilities.

Do you have a work uniform?